LOVE TO LOVE TO LOVE YA // Why lube shouldn't freak you out
“If you nourished your sexual life with all the excitements and adventures which love injects into sensuality, you would be the most potent man in the world. The source of sexual power is curiosity, passion. You are watching its little flame die of asphyxiation. Sex does not thrive on monotony. Without feeling, inventions, moods, no surprises in bed. Sex must be mixed with tears, laughter, words, promises, scenes, jealousy, envy, all the spices of fear, foreign travel, new faces, novels, stories, dreams, fantasies, music, dancing, opium, wine. How much do you lose by this periscope at the tip of your sex, when you could enjoy a harem of distinct and never-repeated wonders?"
- Delta of Venus
February is officially over and we certainly hope that all the loving hasn’t died down yet. We’ve been a bit visually inundated with hearts, flowers, all things pink, red, and sexy. We’re not complaining, we’re just saying… Why should a Hallmark Holiday mark a month, and be the only reason to spice it up, or to focus on the self love?
We believe in daily pleasures of all sorts.
Yes, it is nice to be reminded of these things, but frequent rituals of romance are really what keep us in check. And so today - for the purpose of this conversation - when we think about love, we’re thinking about sex, and when we think about sex, we are thinking about LUBE.
The subject of lube can feel a little taboo. We know what lube is for, but we certainly don’t want our parents to know. It’s a little gross and and the packaging is terrible. Let’s be honest in saying there is absolutely nothing sexy about the majority of lubes. Most basic brands look like you’re bringing hand sanitizer to bed. And whats in lube is even less sexy. Certain commercial brands of lubricant have been linked to infertility and the proliferation and spread of STD’s!
This might explain why a whopping 35% of women have never tried it, nor considered it.
We’ve been inspired to reconsider its use thanks to a handful of recommendations from our friends who are using The Balm... as lube.
You don't have to think of porn stars or being ultra kinky. There are plenty of practical and healthful reasons that lube may be necessary. For many women dryness can be a major factor and can really kill your sex life. This can be caused by any number of reasons - hormonal changes, lack of foreplay, stress, medication, etc. And even if you self lubricate effectively there is nothing wrong with a little additional glide. The use of lube helps make things work and feel better, and can help prevent general irritation... and... It helps make frequent sex more comfortable and pleasurable. It's a win-win for keeping things healthy and fun!
Lube doesn’t really need to be just about the mechanics of sex either. Using a safe product like The Balm as lubricant can really just be something nice that smells and feels good.
So, at the very least, be inspired to try something new... and don't let the word lube scare you!*
*Oil based lubes are NOT compatible with condoms nor do they prevent STD's.